In this day and age, people don’t have as many rules about dating it seems. Parents though still want to encourage their children to live their best lives. And this includes them determining what’s the right age for teens to start dating? It is increasingly important to have these standards in a world that doesn’t otherwise enforce a lot.
Teens are Looking for Guidance:
Parents need to remember that their teenagers are subconsciously looking to their parents for rules. They don’t have it all figured out, even though their hormones sometimes tell them that they do. Teens want parents to be honest about dating and have open conversations with them. It is only then that they will respect any parameters that restrict their lives.
Parents Should not Restrict Teens Unfairly:
A lot of parents use the rule that teens cannot start dating until they are 16 years old. This is usually a good rule because of the possibility and likelihood that teens will begin having sex once they start dating. In most countries, 16 years old is the age of consent. And it is important for teens not to be exposed to situations where they are not ready to deal with the fall out. Usually teens who are over 16 years old are almost finished high school and ready to make life decisions about their future. However, if a parent expects a teen to not be interested in anyone until this age, they are being a little unfair. They can tell their children about dating in a way that helps them understand it is okay to have crushes. But they can explain that unsupervised dates are different than having a mutual crush that one sees in group settings. It is not fair to expect a child to not go out because they will run into this person. Just tell them that group settings are better for their relationship until they are ready to get a bit more serious.
Sometimes the Rules Don’t Apply:
Have you ever heard those stories of teens falling in love at 14 years old? It can happen and parents need to expect that their children will explore their interests. This includes having a special relationship. So if the children are mature, then they can grow together. It is best though if the parents get to know the other parents. Some people find love at a young age. It is certainly better to encourage this than restrict children and then they grow up never finding love. They might wait until after college, and by then, there is no one suitable left. Parents who say to children not to find young love are really just imposing unfair restrictions.
What about if They’re Really not Ready?
A lot of parents quote stats and say, well there is only a 50 50 chance it will work out anyways. This cynical attitude is usually what makes kids afraid of love. They might not want to make commitments. The statistics were not available in years before. What if they have actually gotten better? Or what if they only apply to couples that cohabit before getting married. There are always incidentals that science does not consider. Don’t tell your teens that they should be afraid of trying and committing to the right person.